Are you in a relationship with someone and things only seem to be getting worse instead of better? Is your partner wanting to split up and you just can not bring yourself to let them go? Many times there is one partner that wants to keep trying no matter what, even when they themselves are miserable too. You might keep thinking that if you just give it a little bit longer things will turn around or if you both try a little bit harder, things will be alright. Sometimes this is just wishful thinking. Not all relationships will end up happily ever after and in trying to hang on to a bad one, you just might be preventing yourself from finding a really good one.

Just because you separate for a while does not always mean that you can not get back together after a while and both of you have had a little time to think things over. A separation does not always mean the end. In some cases of course, it eventually does when one partner decides they do not want to try again. This can be hard to take when you had your heart set on giving it another try. The thing you must make yourself realize is that it always, always takes two to make a relationship work and no matter how badly you might want it to work, if the other person does not want it, you have no chance.

When you continue to pursue someone who does not want to be with you anymore, most of the time you are not going to be able to change their mind. Especially if you see that they are already dating or are involved in a relationship with someone new. What is the point of wasting your valuable life sitting around waiting for the near impossible to happen? What you should be doing is the same thing they are doing, getting on with your life. This might not necessarily mean that you are ready to start dating someone new just yet yourself, but you can at least go out with friends or find some new interests to fill your spare time. Anything is better than sitting around moping and being miserable over someone who obviously does not want you back.

Being rejected with finality that you can not deny is a bitter pill to swallow when you love someone. You are heart broken and the last thing you might want is for someone to tell you to get up and do something with yourself. Well, you might as well because the only person that is suffering is you and it is likely not affecting the person who left you behind at all. Oh, they might be remorseful that it did not work out and might have had real feelings for you, but evidently not as deeply as you. Sometimes you do have to pull yourself up by your boot straps and just make yourself move on. It will be painful at first, but after a while you might be surprised what a relief it is to be out of a bad relationship and then you should be able to start rebuilding your life, either alone or with someone else.

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