According to a study published in "Psychological Science", boredom "can kill a marriage, squashing intimacy and romance". In the study 123 couples applying for their first marriage license in Wayne County, Michigan were interviewed 7 and 16 years later. Boredom at 7 years strongly predicted loss of intimacy nine years later and often divorce. However, sharing new or exciting experiences duplicates some of the brain chemistry that occurs at the beginning of a relationship; and doing something a little scary creates an adrenalin surge that increases feelings of sexiness - which could lead to an increase in the sales of swinging chandeliers.
According to a study done at Utrecht University in the Netherlands, people replace about half their friends every 7 years, resulting in their social networks staying about the same size. Originally 1,007 people, ages 18-65, were interviewed and 604 were re-interviewed 7 years later. Although personal network sizes remained stable, only 48% were part of an individual's original network and of those about 30% were discussion partners and practical helpers. The study also showed that when people choose new friends, they frequently choose them from a context they have previously chosen a friend. That's not very social for social animals.
According to experiments done by New York University psychologists, announcing major goals to others doesn't help accomplish them. Law students were asked to rate a series of statements about their approach to becoming lawyers. Some anonymously dropped the questionnaire in a box; others discussed their answers with the researcher running the experiment. Then the students were asked to help analyze 20 difficult, criminal-law cases, knowing they could quit at anytime. The students who had discussed their questionnaires with the researcher failed to intensely follow through with the criminal-law cases. They talked the talk, but they didn't push themselves to walk the walk.
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